Should I tell my friend I’m falling for him?
Philippine Daily Inquirer
First Posted 22:45:00 06/17/2008
Filed Under: People, Lifestyle & Leisure
DEAR JEWEL,
I have this guy friend that I’m really close to, and I’m afraid that I’m falling for him. I’m scared that if he finds out about my feelings, I will lose him as a friend, and I’m not ready for that. Do I take the risk?
BFF
Dear BFF,
Ok, that’s hard. What to do, what to do? It’s a 50-50 situation. If you go all out and he’s not in the same place, then what happens next will depend on your friendship and what kind of person he is.
Analyze the kind of relationship you have as friends, and think of a time when he was in a sticky situation. How did he react? What did he do? How did he treat the people involved? From that, you can more or less judge what he would do given a worst-case scenario.
But let’s say he feels the same way, and now you’re boyfriend/girlfriend blah blah blah. Then you realize he’s not boyfriend material after all (or vice versa) and you break up. Are you prepared to lose him as a friend, too?
My point is, find out now. The sooner you do, the sooner you can start getting over him or being happy, whichever way the arrow points. This is me talking, but you will find other friends, believe me.
Between a rock and a hard place,
Jewel
Dear Jewel,
I’m a college freshman (woohoo!) and I’m so excited to be in college. On my first day, I met a pretty girl named Carrie, and it was love at first sight. I think Cupid was there and touched my heart. I introduced myself and it was very nice of her to invite me back to her house. I’m confused, what did it mean?
MR. POGI
Dear Pogi,
Oh honey, how wonderful it must be to be young and innocent. Have you seen the movie “Carrie?” It’s about this psycho girl... Just kidding.
See, love at first sight is actually spelled H-O-R-M-O-N-E-S. And Cupid, when he strikes you with his arrow, leaves you sprawled on the ground, bleeding. But enough of my jadedness, and let’s discuss your girl Carrie.
I think you should be wary of girls who invite you immediately to their homes on your first meeting. I’m not saying this Carrie girl is a shady character, but normal people usually reserve the house parties for close friends. I use the word “close” very loosely here—say, someone she’s known for at least a month?
Let’s say you go with her. Please be in your best behavior. If her parents are there, greet them. If you’re offered refreshments, say thank you, but leave before dinner with the excuse that your own parents are expecting you. Be an absolute gentleman, and banish those thoughts about getting to whatever base.
Why? Because your parents are spending money for your education, so focus. Don’t cut classes, do your projects, and don’t prick your pimples. If you do all that, I promise the universe will conspire to bring you more Carries.
Do pages 30-99,
Jewel
Dear Jewel,
Could you help me find a body piercing shop here in Manila, one that is registered and authorized to perform the procedure?
Hole-In-One
Dear HIO,
Huh? I think I need to lie down, I’m a bit disoriented. Are you doing this for a girl? My own pain threshold is so low that I cry for hours from a paper cut, so I shy away from those places.
Where do you want to be pierced? I’m just guessing it’s not your ears, since there stalls at some malls where the salesladies “stapler” your ear with a stud.
Around 5,000 years ago, Egyptians used ear and navel piercings to reflect their wealth. Romans chose their nipples to show strength, and the Aztec Mayans pierced their tongue to be closer to their gods.
There’s more. In ancient Rome, the gladiators had their genitals pierced with a ring on the tip. This ring was tied to a leather string and tied back to prevent injury while doing gladiator duty. You know, killing lions and other gladiators.
Please don’t tell me you want to be pierced like a gladiator.
Just buy a cup,
Jewel
E-mail the author at jewel-lifestyle@inquirer.com.ph
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